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I will try and keep this short because, i am tired.*
Our 18 day streak of below freezing weather ended with a spike up to 50's, then straight down again. Though not so much. The result is a lot of snow melted on paved surfaces and the stuff on the ground compacted and then froze. Today, back into the mid 30's.
I hate to predict but, that could be it for true winter here. In the past few years, it has become shorter and often more intense.
My daughter had her trial/slash hearing delayed; giving her a chance to make amends on her own. She has paid several hundred dollars for a three-day intense driving and counseling course. She is attempting to get to insurance to approve a 30 day treatment; that may be a long shot. She is also planning on checking into the hospital in the next few days for a medically supervised detox. Also, she has lost her driving privileges through March. I think that was a deal the prosecutor made with her attorney to extend the period before she has to go before the judge. Or in this case, it's mayor's court.
EDIT: While Cheryl was out of the house and I was still asleep, she took an uber to the store to buy another bottle.
I hope for the best; but I don't believe she really understands the impact of addiction. I mean she suffers, but I don't believe you know it until you try and leave it.
Rewatched the movie Otto with Tom Hanks. I see it as the tragic bookend to Joe Vs. The Volcano. I find the scenes between Otto and Marisol touching, sometimes bringing me to tears. Sorry, doesn't make sense if you haven't seen it.
*Not tired, weary.
Our 18 day streak of below freezing weather ended with a spike up to 50's, then straight down again. Though not so much. The result is a lot of snow melted on paved surfaces and the stuff on the ground compacted and then froze. Today, back into the mid 30's.
I hate to predict but, that could be it for true winter here. In the past few years, it has become shorter and often more intense.
My daughter had her trial/slash hearing delayed; giving her a chance to make amends on her own. She has paid several hundred dollars for a three-day intense driving and counseling course. She is attempting to get to insurance to approve a 30 day treatment; that may be a long shot. She is also planning on checking into the hospital in the next few days for a medically supervised detox. Also, she has lost her driving privileges through March. I think that was a deal the prosecutor made with her attorney to extend the period before she has to go before the judge. Or in this case, it's mayor's court.
EDIT: While Cheryl was out of the house and I was still asleep, she took an uber to the store to buy another bottle.
I hope for the best; but I don't believe she really understands the impact of addiction. I mean she suffers, but I don't believe you know it until you try and leave it.
Rewatched the movie Otto with Tom Hanks. I see it as the tragic bookend to Joe Vs. The Volcano. I find the scenes between Otto and Marisol touching, sometimes bringing me to tears. Sorry, doesn't make sense if you haven't seen it.
*Not tired, weary.
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Melting and freezing--the worst. We're finally getting some more rain. All January, when it was dry as a bone, and I could walk places without an issue, I was sick and couldn't work.
I guess it's A Man Called Otto, which is an Americanized movie version of A Man Called Ove, which I read a couple of years ago. I remember the main theme but not the details, beyond getting involved with his neighbors and putting off offing himself. I did like the book. I was going to read some other Fredrik Bakman books but haven't gotten around to it.
What did she get, some kind of public intoxication charge, since I assume she wasn't actually driving? Losing a license only through March seems like a very short time. I'm sorry; it does sound like she's still in the same groove.
You must be absolutely worn out.
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I think the mayor's courts handle smaller non-violent offences; I'm thinking mostly traffic issues. I was in the pool for a one day jury duty thing a year ago, but it was canceled. ik think it takes some of the load off the county court; and who wants to go downtown to deal with all that? We've had a couple judges removed for corruption in the past year.
Are you recovering?
I've just ordered the book from the library, i know the setting is different; I'll post a couple youtube clips. It looks like there is a Swedish version, probably closer to home, literally.
If you're in your vehicle, under the influence, the reasoning is that you can at any minute make the decision to drive and you obviously did drive to wherever you are, under the influence. I think the suspension is until she faces judgement and unless somehow, she is found not guilty, she gets a required suspension. Though it looks like you can still drive to work, run a couple errands and go to your treatment. You submit a list, again, I guess. I'll find out. Unless a breathalyzer is installed in the car, you can't stop people from driving. We've all heard of someone with a dozen DUI's who finally kills someone.
A little bit.
Thank you.
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They have juries for mayor's court too? It makes me think of Andy Griffith, how he used to give city slickers tickets, and then he'd be the justice of the peace too.
I just wish her an epiphany with all my heart.
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We do not heal as quickly as we once did. Be careful; don't let it get out of hand.
An update on Sedona, Before the hospital will let someone come in for detox, they have to have been clean? (there is some 70's Streets of San Franciso talk) for 24 hours. It hit her hard because she has been drinking so much. She vomited and or heaved at least 50 times in those hours. She was shaking and miserable. In the ER they scanned her head and abdomen, a couple x-rays. Gave her fluids and medications, found a blood infection. Why do this to yourself!? Now she is quiet and depressed. In a couple days she is going into the three day program for driving safety and substance abuse counseling, to try and be proactive and not get the jail sentence. If it turns out the sentence is at the county jail downtown......it's just a Hell hole that I don't know how my 90lb daughter could survive. I want to scream at her, the world throws enough at you and she was blessed with so much that she is throwing away.
That's all.
Lowell
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I did have a friend several years ago who spent a week or two in the county jail because she could not pay the fine.
I can't imagine what you're feeling, or have just stopped feeling. I can certainly understand your frustration--even anger-- at her inability/refusal to recognize and grab on to all the wonderful things she has. It sounds like physically she was in a very bad, very toxic state.
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Do I pay it or let her go to jail? Is that heartless? She threw away 10 empty bottles of vodka a few weeks ago; these were like, two-liter size. While she was in the hospital I went through her room and tossed several more empty bottles. This is someone who probably doesn't weigh 90 lbs. She is addicted and needs to know and feel the consequences; it's her life.
Yes, I'm sure I will pay the fine, but I shouldn't, should I?
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An unfathomable amount of alcohol--how can anyone's body tolerate that?
I guess it's possible that something might "get through" to her if she goes to jail--a personal encounter, a revelation, or something, maybe. But jail is usually profoundly dehumanizing, and for someone whose self-concept and mental state is already so fragile, it's a huge risk to think that that would help her or be "therapeutic" in any way. I would keep her out of jail if at all possible-- while knowing that there's no way to be sure what the best choice is.
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She has agreed to go to a detox clinic for 60 days. Andrew has persuaded her to do that. She means to, but a few weeks in, we will have to wait and see.
I don't want to dare to hope.
How's that baby.
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