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[joebanks]

Mom's cancer has returned but, had a positive meeting with her surgeon and a discussion with her physician yesterday. She recommends talking to a radiologist and she believes the treatment could only be two weeks and mom wouldn't get very sick. The radiologist may say differently but i'm going with what positive i can find at the moment. The surgeon very much tells it like it is but is optimistic about the near future. She says that the cancer will outlive my mom, meaning if mom lives long enough she will die from it. Though she didn't word it this way, the surgeon wants to treat the cancer like a chronic disease; treat it as it shows and buy some time. Both mom's regular doctor and the surgeon comment that her health is good enough for someone her age that it is worth fighting.

Why am i sounding so up? Maybe i am in shock because after all this is her death sentence. But when the day started i didn't know what to expect, how bad it was and now we at least have a plan and we have some time. So yeah, i am in a good, well, better mood.

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[rafqa]

I'm so so sorry to hear this. I'm glad it looks like something that can be addressed as it goes, and you're right to be optimistic. But with me it's always, why, why-- it's not enough to have Alzheimer's, you have to have cancer too? I think sometimes in older people, though, it progresses a lot more slowly. I hope she is not feeling too ill, and sometimes the forgetting means relief from the gnawing worry.

[joebanks]

Thank you.
With my mom it's why,why? And i don't have an answer for her. She's this shy quiet person who has been kind to everyone. Married just short of 12 years when her husband died, leaving her with three children 11 and under. She worked, saved, had hoped to pass her money on; now it's all gone. She took care of herself, walked, ate right; then loses her daughter, develops the Alzheimer's, has a stroke, now the cancer.