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Maybe a year ago Kathleen started to tell me about Bob who works in maintenance in the daytime. "Bob said this, etc. I barely knew of Bob, but had bought a jar or two of honey that he'd sell. He'd bring in several bottles and leave an envelope on the honor system.
Kathleen told me that Bob's longtime girlfriend was breaking up with him; it was her house and she gave him a couple months to pack up and go. Amicable? Kathleen would occasionally mention Bob's struggles to buy a new house; dealing with financing etc.
I always felt the tiniest pangs of jealousy, but how unreasonable was that! Kathleen left her husband and moved in with her daughter several weeks before she told me. She never told me what the incident was that finally drove her to leave but i know something happened out of the ordinary. We worked through the spring and the beginning of summer; Bob finally got his house.
Kathleen had still been paying the bills on the house she and her husband had rented; but one day she tells me that he suddenly moved to his parents in West Virginia, taking everything with him, her stuff, their furniture; leaving behind a trashed house. She told me she was leaving the job. Suddenly things moved fast; i offered to help; though, how much could i do for another woman? I don't hear much from Kathleen, then i find out that Bob helped her clean the place out and it turns out that he bought a house that has a small rental unit attached. Before i know it Kathleen has moved there and, and...i have absolutely no room to jealous or outraged; i don't even know what if anything is going on between the two of them.
Except that i know they talk in the evening, just like the two of us did for six and a half years. And that is what was taken from me. I don't fault Kathleen..what is there to even fault her for? Bob has always seemed like a decent guy, but as his relationship had fallen apart and the two of them bonded; did he intentionally buy a duplex after Kathleen left her husband?
Bob seems like a decent guy, but Kathleen always, cosmically, picks the wrong people. STart with the wrong husband; she has had dentists that pull teeth they shouldn't, doctors who have performed surgeries that don't help. She filed for bankruptcy, got a lawyer who ended up taking money from her and threatened to sue her! (The Bar association sided with him).
What has been aggravating is how Kathleen hides so much from me but it slips out in conversation; like "We were painting" "We hung a wreath" I told a much longer version of this to the therapist and she said Kathleen is protecting both of us because of our feelings toward each other. Does that make me feel good? Some but then again, it doesn't.
She's moved on, mostly, has every right to. Maybe she wins. Bob does win. I didn't win.
Maybe a year ago Kathleen started to tell me about Bob who works in maintenance in the daytime. "Bob said this, etc. I barely knew of Bob, but had bought a jar or two of honey that he'd sell. He'd bring in several bottles and leave an envelope on the honor system.
Kathleen told me that Bob's longtime girlfriend was breaking up with him; it was her house and she gave him a couple months to pack up and go. Amicable? Kathleen would occasionally mention Bob's struggles to buy a new house; dealing with financing etc.
I always felt the tiniest pangs of jealousy, but how unreasonable was that! Kathleen left her husband and moved in with her daughter several weeks before she told me. She never told me what the incident was that finally drove her to leave but i know something happened out of the ordinary. We worked through the spring and the beginning of summer; Bob finally got his house.
Kathleen had still been paying the bills on the house she and her husband had rented; but one day she tells me that he suddenly moved to his parents in West Virginia, taking everything with him, her stuff, their furniture; leaving behind a trashed house. She told me she was leaving the job. Suddenly things moved fast; i offered to help; though, how much could i do for another woman? I don't hear much from Kathleen, then i find out that Bob helped her clean the place out and it turns out that he bought a house that has a small rental unit attached. Before i know it Kathleen has moved there and, and...i have absolutely no room to jealous or outraged; i don't even know what if anything is going on between the two of them.
Except that i know they talk in the evening, just like the two of us did for six and a half years. And that is what was taken from me. I don't fault Kathleen..what is there to even fault her for? Bob has always seemed like a decent guy, but as his relationship had fallen apart and the two of them bonded; did he intentionally buy a duplex after Kathleen left her husband?
Bob seems like a decent guy, but Kathleen always, cosmically, picks the wrong people. STart with the wrong husband; she has had dentists that pull teeth they shouldn't, doctors who have performed surgeries that don't help. She filed for bankruptcy, got a lawyer who ended up taking money from her and threatened to sue her! (The Bar association sided with him).
What has been aggravating is how Kathleen hides so much from me but it slips out in conversation; like "We were painting" "We hung a wreath" I told a much longer version of this to the therapist and she said Kathleen is protecting both of us because of our feelings toward each other. Does that make me feel good? Some but then again, it doesn't.
She's moved on, mostly, has every right to. Maybe she wins. Bob does win. I didn't win.